“Forgiveness is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself. If you can’t learn to forgive, you can forget about achieving true success in your life.”
Whether by a family member, an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, or a stranger, everyone has been wronged at some time in their life. Everyone has felt the anger, hurt or sadness inflicted by someone else. However, keeping these negative emotions and holding grudges will only hurt yourself.
Forgiving someone isn’t excusing them, rather it’s accepting that something happened and that there’s nothing you can presently do to change it. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, something that will make YOU feel better!
4 STEPS TO LET GO OF THE PAST
1. Talk it out:
Tell a friend about the person or situation you need to forgive. Tell them everything and how it makes you feel. Now is your chance to get it all out.
Truly realize that there is nothing you can do to change the past. Accept that it happened by trying to derive a lesson from the experience. For example instead of thinking “I’m so angry that my boyfriend cheated on me,” think, “I learned how it feels to be cheated on, and because of that I know how NOT to treat other people. That I am thankful for.”
In meditation, mentally visualize a thick cord that attaches you to the person you need to forgive. Now, mentally visualize taking a large pair of scissors and cutting the cord. As the cord is cut, feel a sense of freedom knowing that you are letting that person go and forgiving them.
4. Wish them well:
Instead of wishing bad things upon the person who angered you, start wishing them well. Sincerely hope that they learned from that experience and that they will have a great life. Envision them being successful and smiling. It may sound crazy, but turning your negative feelings into a loving energy will help you free yourself of the unhappiness they caused you.