Why We Should Look Forward to More of Each Day
“Use your smile to change the world; don’t let the world change your smile.”
For most of us the average day includes a mix of things we both look forward to and things we don’t look forward to. We look forward to coffee in the morning, we regret that we have to go to work; we look forward to coming home at the end of the day, we dislike that we have to do laundry.
But how much of your life are you giving up if you dread, dislike, regret and don’t look forward to, say, 50 percent of your average day? Logical reasoning says that, based on this estimate, you’re giving up half of your entire life. And you’re giving it up simply because you aren’t looking at your life from a healthy perspective.
Here are a few tricks that work for me. Maybe they will help you start to view each day in an optimistic light.
1. Keep good feelings with you all the time.
If I watch an inspiring movie, witness a random act of kindness, or even just feel especially happy on a given day, I choose to remember those feelings and keep them in the forefront of my mind as I do whatever I’m doing. It’s like having an extra blanket of positivity in addition to me looking forward to my day.
Focus on retaining positive feelings and you’ll be a lot stronger when negative things come your way.
2. Just live.
If I find that my mind is wandering and that I’m stressing out about things I have to do today or that I’m trying to plan out my day too aggressively, I remind myself that I need to live in the present moment.
I stop thinking about everything. I just live. If I’m writing, I hone in on how good it feels to be typing. If I’m driving, I make sure to appreciate the scenery with extra attention to detail. I stop trying to control everything, and I just live in the moment.
3. Think of everything you are grateful for.
Another trick I’ve learned for suppressing negative thoughts and feelings is to think of everything I have. I think of all the things in that current moment that I can be grateful for, and I swear I find more and more each time.
I’ll tell you one thing: It’s really hard to be angry about a late rent check when you’re simultaneously grateful for the comfortable home in which you live.
4. Forgive everything.
I have to say, I’m still working on this one. But it does help me tremendously when I’m able to do it. My temper can be pretty off-the-handle, and someone cutting me off in traffic is definitely enough to spark it.
But I’ve gotten a lot better at remembering that I’ve probably done that same thing before, and I get over the issue and move on with my day.
It’s a lot easier to look forward to everything when you don’t let baggage from the past weigh you down.
If you take anything away from this today, let it be this: You are you. And that’s all you need to make today awesome. Look forward to it.